Modern Manners
Last night my husband and I paid our last respects to the father of a dear friend. We dressed as if going to church, in what we quaintly call "dress clothes." Offering our condolences to the widow, children, and grandchildren, we offered a prayer at the casket and then checked out the family photos on display. As we were leaving the building, I noticed among those waiting to greet the family several people in jeans, and one in jean cut-offs. Is it just me, or does that show a lack of respect?
I understand that "being there" is a commitment of love and caring, and sometimes that is the best that can be done. But truly, some of the mourners looked like they had come from a picnic.
Have I crossed into some dinosaur demographic? Will I forever after sound like one of the old folks who just can't understand these new modern ways? Just wondering . . .
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Dress code
It is truly sad that some people feel that going to a religious service, funeral, or a job interview is a "casual" thing. While, because of work schedule and time, I have went to 1 memorial service in work clothes I totaly agree that caring enough to wear proper attire is important.
But those same people are probably ones that will go on a job interview with shorts and a tee shirt on. Every job interview I have been on I have been in a shirt and tie. And guess what? I have gotten just about every job I have applied for. My wife and I are currently holding a job that requres that we "interveiw" people and I find it sad how 99% of the people that come in would be rejected simply because they didn't care enough abouit getting a job to take time and clean up and change clothes.
But while I understand the importance of going to church going "as you are" reflects a lack of respect for God. And it is true God will accept us for who we are, doesn't he expect us to make some changes in our life? One of them coming to appreciate the need to show respect by dressng accordingly. But doesn't this reflect the attitude of people in in general today? When something as simple as putting on a belt, or pulling the pants up seems to be so outdated. If people can't show enough respect for God and others to dress properly it is truly sad.
Setting an example
Hold your ground. Your way is appropriate and someone will be influenced by your actions.
A sign of Respect
People at our church go to church wearing jeans. We have a policy at church that says come as you are. I believe that dressing up for church and funerals shows respect to God or in this case the deceased. I wish people would take the time to properly prepare themselves for the proper situation but I ultimately think it is far better to be present.
I am sorry to hear about your friend's loss. It is wonderful you cared enough to dress appropriately and attend.
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